Thursday, July 14, 2011

Katherine Jackson: You were everything to Michael…and I do mean everything!

When Michael Jackson apparently died on June 25, 2009, it surprised some in the media and even his fans that he had left custody of his children to his mother Katherine Jackson. I have to admit that I was one of a few who wasn’t surprised because of the way that Michael Jackson had spoken so lovingly of his mother in all of the interviews he did over the years. He adored her with all his heart and this was quite obvious. Also, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that if Michael were really dead, he would no doubt have wanted to give his beloved mother something to go on living for, something that would help her to go on without him provided she survived him. If he is indeed still alive, (which is currently being played out on the Internet in something called: The Michael Jackson Death Hoax), is there anyone else he would trust to care for his kids in his absence as much as he would trust the woman who had raised him. Yes, there were arguments about why he didn’t choose one of his brothers or sisters. In fact, none of them were even named as secondary guardian, that honor was given to long time friend, Diana Ross. There are a few reasons that I can come up with that may have been a part of Michael Jackson's reasoning here. First of all, there is the fact that his brothers and sisters have lives of their own, which involve many of their own children.  Also, Michael probably didn’t want to make them feel obligated. I mean let's think about this for a minute. I know coming from a large family myself I can honestly tell you, when you signal one sibling out, it has a tendency to make the others feel as if they have been left out in favor of the one named. Michael probably knew full well he didn’t need to name any of his brothers or sisters as guardian to know they would be there for his kids, he knew they would be and they have been.

As for Katherine, despite Michael’s vote of confidence, she has met with a whole lot of criticism over whether she should be guardian. But let's face it this is going to happen in the media, they will dissect stuff to death whether there is something to dissect or not. However, some of this criticism has also come from fans, which choose not to see Katherine in a very favorable light. Why, what has Katherine supposedly done that makes her the victim of such criticism? Well it has been made public fact that Joe Jackson was a strict disciplinarian to the point where some of his tactics could be classified as abuse in today’s society. He also carried on affairs with other women, yet despite all of this Katherine remained with him, which made some think she wasn’t a good mother figure type.

Wait! I want to know who are we to judge this woman, anyway. Let's remember this is the woman that Michael loved more than anyone else, except maybe his own children. I want everyone who has bashed Katherine Jackson to think about this carefully for a minute, about when Katherine was raising her children with Joe. What decade was this? That’s right the fifties, sixties, and seventies. Back at this time women didn’t have the independence that they have today, and not only was Katherine a minority as a woman she was also an African American woman. So what were her options at this time? Not many when you stop to think about it. All right, so why hasn’t she divorced the man, even though they have been separated for years? Why does she remain legally his wife? Well let's remember the way Katherine was brought up that marriage should be forever, she is also highly religious, which also preaches this fact. But think about this, in truth this is really a marriage now in name only, Joe can no longer control Katherine and he certainly hasn’t had access to any of the money that Michael left Katherine. Yes, it may have seemed a bit hypocritical to have celebrated a 62nd wedding anniversary with Joe, but once again who are we to judge? We really don’t know what has gone on in Katherine and Joe’s marriage, now do we? The only thing that I do know for sure is that Katherine Jackson was everything to Michael and I do mean everything!